This past Sunday, I administered my thirtieth shot in my right thigh. Life continues to go well. I would say nothing interesting happened, but something is always happening.
Coming out / transitioning is different for each person going through the process. Some people might disagree with me, but it has been my experience that if someone disagrees with that statement, they do not have to go through the process. I mention this because I will have people come up to me (usually at the local bar) and ask, “Do you dress like a woman all the time?”. I want to say, “Are you an ass all the time?” I do not. Most people are not trying to be rude; I believe (I may be wrong) they are trying to understand why I make my choices. The truth is that I did not come to any conclusion about myself quickly, but once I did, I embraced it. Another person might not make the same choice as myself. They might decide to present as another gender in certain places or situations. Their situation is unique, and how they choose to present themselves is for them. Another person might decide early on (yes, even pre-teen) that they will embrace their true self, whatever that is.
I write this information down more for my personal use. I do not mind the questions most of the time I welcome them; however, I have to be careful. When I talk freely about my experience, I may embolden someone to think they can ask a transgender person anything. This happened, and the person on the receiving end was unhappy. They had a rough time coming out, and the person asking the questions thought that since I opened up, everyone else would.
If you meet someone different, you don’t have to understand them; get to know them. Find out what type of person they are, when they are ready if they are ready they will let you know.
Alla Davis
